Get a Little Closer

Dear Witterpitted,

How can I be closer to my spouse?

-D.G.

Dear D.G.,
No, The question is ,"How do you force a little girl to take a bath?"  I want that to be the question.
Ok. I don't know what to say.  If you are, um, at night, if you and daddy are sleeping on your side of the bed, and you want to feel closer to each other, just scootch closer and hug each other, without anyone even knowing it. And then in the morning, when you wake up, you figure out that you are hugging each other. When, um, like, Bailey wants to feel closer to her mom, she could ask her if she could sleep with her mom. That's all. The end.

-Emmeline(4)

Dear D.G.,
      Spend time together.  Play games with each other.  Play grown up things together, like Yahtzee. Watch movies together, like Studio C. Finish cleaning so you can spend more time together.
- Audrey (7)

Dear D.G.,
You don't.
-Clara(9)

Dear D.G.,
Maybe you can try to do the things that your spouse likes occasionally. If you are a newlywed you can get to know them by just asking them , and learn to communicate. You can still do this after a long marraige.
- Amy (11)

Dear D.G.,
Step one, Walk towards spouse.
You are now near them.
Step two, Take a step forward, you are now closer! Congratz!
-Tim(13)

Dear D.G.,

Simple instructions:

Step one. Approach spouse.

Step two. Move closer to spouse.

Step three. Pat yourself on the back. Your'e done! :D

-Reuben(15)

Dear D.G.,

     One of my favorite people once said,"Work is the miracle by which talent comes to the surface and dreams become reality." -Gordon B. Hinckley.  If you want something, it takes work, especially if you want to be closer to someone who seems to have come from another planet. Men and women tend to be very different from each other, yet we also tend to gravitate towards each other and even mate and reproduce.  Weird. Anyway, after all that, it can be hard to stay close, what with those miniature reproductions being so demanding. I'm no expert, but I have a few ideas. Make a commitment to change one thing, to show your spouse love in the way that he/she wants to be loved, such as quality time, service, physical affection, words of affirmation, or gifts.  Then, do it.  It takes work. It might feel unnatural. It probably will feel unnatural. Do it anyway.  Nobody likes to change poopy diapers, but it's the vast amount of time that we spend serving our stinky little babies that makes us love them.  It's the same with spouses, even when you don't feel like it, it's still a good idea.  And just like a stinky diaper, marriages need attention daily, or things just might turn ugly.  You probably wouldn't dream of depriving your children of food. Your spouse needs attention too, and not just food and water.  He/She needs to know that you love him/her, every day. So, figure out your his/her love language( hopefully it isn't gifts, we don't need hoarding or debt) and do something consciously every day to communicate love in his/her love language.

-Becky (36)

Dear D.G.,

     The best way to get closer to your spouse is to serve them. Not just breakfast in bed, and not just during a game of tennis, but everyday, in ways that are important to them. This can be easy, when you and your spouse are compatible in the love languages you speak - and can be very difficult, if the love and service you show is not recognized or received by your spouse because they prefer to be loved and served in a different way.
   
     Another way to become closer to your spouse is to go through a trial with them. This can be something that just happens, or, feel free to create one on your own. For instance, "accidentally" hitting your spouse with your car is sure to break a few bones, and then, you will get to nurse them back to health with all manner of service. They will grow in love and appreciation for you. Slowly poisoning your spouse into sickness, only to help them get better, might also do the trick. Or, calling your spouse's boss repeatedly with annoying remarks until your spouse loses his/her job could create the precise type of financial difficulty you need to bond with and get closer to your spouse, as you eat whatever leftovers you can find in your refrigerator, or the refrigerators of your extended family. Think of the incredible memories you will make together being so hungry, that you are forced to crash wedding receptions every night of the week to simply survive! And in the winter, you can have your water turned off and melt snow in a pan in the house for all of your needs. As they say, these are the best times of your life.

Judd - (38)